Finding your voice

I've been thinking a lot lately about finding my voice - like literally figuring out what I want to say, how to describe my work, and how to show up in general.

Facebook is fabulous for connection and collaboration and being exposed to new and different ways of thinking about the world. I love it for many reasons and I have no plans to leave.

I appreciate reading the cultural critiques and pointed discussions initiated by folks I admire and respect. Even when they are uncomfortable they stir something in me. They can often help me to learn and grow.

Except when they don't.

Sometimes the ever-present flow of opinions and directives, instead of enriching me, makes my head spin and dampens my heart. I lose myself and my center in the midst of so-and-so's "good point" and so-and-so's "oh, I hadn't considered that".

So much smart analysis. So much to consider

I find myself choking off my flow, holding back my good work in the world because I can't integrate it all perfectly, can't be all things to all people, and don't want to offend someone, or forget some key piece I should be considering in the light of the barrage of very good information (not to mention the "worthy of expression, but not the final word" opinions) inhabiting my brain thanks to social media.

I start to wonder who *I* am in the midst of all of it. I start to judge myself on external criteria and trends instead of coming back to the core of who I am. And I am paralyzed.

And then I am no good to anyone.

I can't be all things to all people. None of us can.

And that's not an excuse to just ignore real issues and be an ass. Not at all.

But our best work will be done from the clarity of our own voice and our own experience, so we need to be able to be solidly grounded in *that*. We have to know and honor who we are outside of the expectations of others.

So, the question for all of us is, how do we keep coming back to center? How do we even know what we really think, who we really are in the midst of the barrage of expectations of The Other (who is also us, as we are All One)?

This has always been at the heart of my work - everything I have done. Holding compassionate and wide-open space for a beautiful being as their voice emerges with clarity and beauty absolutely lights my soul. Every time.

And I am still grappling with it myself.

No easy answers. Just understanding and support for the journey. I'm here if this resonates with you and you're in search of your true voice.